Annoyed at bf, need to rant

So me and my bf are long distance and i should add that we plan to get married and are gearing up for that. We have to take a plane to see each other. He wanted me to come see him for the weekend and offered to pay for the trip so I’m like okay cool let’s do it. But i noticed he only bought me a one way ticket. I thought that was odd and asked why he didn’t buy my flight home but he was kinda just like “don’t worry I’ll take care of it.” Days go by, he still hasn’t bought it, and after my constant asking he started to get a bit annoyed. I offered to buy the ticket myself but he again was like no, I’ve got this.

The day before my flight he still hadn’t bought my ticket, and out of curiosity i checked the flight website and there was one ticket remaining for 400 dollars. I asked him, again, if he’d bought my ticket and told him that if he hadn’t, we had a predicament. He hadn’t and was kinda stunned to see that the only remaining ticket was so expensive.

After some digging he offered to get me a flight home from another airport — that was 45 minutes from his home and the flight was at 6 am on a day where he worked at 8. At that point I would’ve only been with him for like less than a day and a half, one day i would’ve been working (i work remotely) so i was kinda like …um what’s the point of this trip thinking that i should just come another time.

But he was insistent and got me the ticket from the far away airport

So my uber gets me to the airport and as we pull in, i get a text that my flight was delayed by two hours. Very annoyed but it is what it is. Later i get a text that my flight was delayed by another hour. Still annoyed. I get another text my flight has been delayed by another hour. I was already peeved off with how unnecessary this trip was going to be by that point, and the delays were only shortening the amount of time we’d spend together so i told him we’re canceling the whole thing and I’m going home. As soon as my uber gets me there, he texts me saying he’ll pay for my uber back to the airport because he wanted To see me. I was so irritated with the whole mess of a trip that i told him i was not going back to the airport after all that.

He then offered to come see me instead and said there was a flight that evening that he could take. And so i said that was fine and he came to see me.

He later confessed that the reason he hadn’t bought the ticket initially was because he didnt have the money for it and his man pride had gotten in the way of letting me buy it myself.

But long story short he came to see me

So yes I’m happy he fixed the problem and that he was honest with me in the end

However i remained unhappy that he wasn’t honest with me upfront (especially considering i asked REPEATEDLY why he hadn’t bought it yet), that he got annoyed with me for asking, that he wouldn’t just let me buy it, that he almost had me getting on a plane with no way of getting home (i have another job that’s in person so had i gone with no return flight that would’ve affected my going to work), and that he hadn’t had enough money for a plane ticket. Like…i get that we’re not rich but…what’s going on that you don’t have 60 dollars in your back account @man who says he wants to marry me this year. That’s unsettling to me. Like i said we’re planning to get married and this plane fiasco may be a minor issue but to me it’s the fact that such a minor, easily solvable thing turned into an issue at all. Yes he ultimately solved it but why do i have to question him 100 times, why am i annoying for being curious, why do you not have 60 dollars in your checking? Surely you have more than 60 dollars in your bank account. He doesn’t have bills he lives at home!