Today was his birthday but

So today’s my husband’s birthday. He decided to be gone for most of the day to go ride with his friends. When he got home he took a nap and then he had his friends over. He told me he didn’t want me to hang out with him and his friends because “you have no friends and I don’t want you around me and mine. I just want to hang out with the boys.”

I kinda feel sad and used because I got everything set up and cooked all the food and even got him a birthday cake. And we also have a daughter together. He didn’t spend any time with either one of us today. we’ve been together 6 years…. I’m also sad because I did all this for him and I can’t even remember the last time he did anything for me on my birthday. Maybe 3 years ago?

Let me add him and his friends watched me set up and light the grill and didn’t offer to help me. And I asked for him to help me and he refused and on top of this I watched and entertained our daughter.

Edit: no we don’t spend time together. When he gets home he’s in his game. No we don’t sleep in the same bed together and haven’t for almost 4 years….

He told me last night that it was his birthday and shouldn’t have to do anything. Yet on my birthdays I do everything for myself and cook and spend time with our daughter….