Husband Hates Bodily Fluids

My husband and I have been and known each other for a while. I always known about his strong dislike in dealing with other people’s bodily fluids. I used to think it was as simple blood, pee, etc, but over the years I’ve started to realized how deep it was, especially after having kids.

Because my husband disliked other people’s bodily fluids, over the years he has refused to change any of his kids diapers. We have three under 6. He doesn’t like giving them baths because that’s considered bodily fluids in his eyes. He can’t wash dishes, can’t clean bathrooms.! He doesn’t like touching my breastmilk, so refuses to use it for our son who is one month old.He refuses to share straws with me. He’s not into kissing, especially if it involves tongue. He doesn’t go down on me, has tried but it never ends well. And he rarely ever allow me to go down on. This isn’t even the worst of it. He didn’t want to hold any of our kids until they had their first bath and even then he had a big fear of the babies puking on him , so he rarely enjoyed cuddling with them. He has a very hard time when it comes to having normal sex. You know, lots of bodily fluids are involved. We either have to go out and have a few drinks first to help with his nerves, or he has to spoke pot, or take his anxiety medication. If he doesn’t, the whole thing is just awkward. As the years go on, it’s becoming so hard to even bond with him. It’s hard for him to bond with the kids because of his fear. He didn’t use to be so bad, but it has gotten extremely worst over time. He won’t even go anywhere that involves swimming, water parks, hot tubes or anything like that. I expressed to him that he needed to work on this fear because I felt like it was preventing him from enjoying his family and he said he doesn’t think it’s affecting anything because he said that he was completely content with how things were in his life.

It may not seem like a burden, but it’s a lot on me physically and emotionally. He can’t help me with things because of his fear. Can’t be normal with me and his kids. Can’t have normal intimacy. The hormones from my most recent baby has my emotions all over the place and things are becoming overwhelming. I’m not sure what steps to take and I’m embarrassed to talk about my relationship with others because I always tell everyone how happy we are. I also feel like my family would be call me crazy and tell me I’m blessed. (My Family likes that he makes lots of money and tell me all the time that things could be worst and that I should be thankful. His family already think I’m ungrateful and always looking for things to complain about.) I just feel like I’m going crazy. Has anyone else dealt with someone in their life that has a fear of something that is affecting their life like this.