Husband wants more financially

My husband of ten years told me he was going to take care of me the moment I got pregnant. He said he was going to make sure bills and everything would be taken care of. He makes enough working as an officer that I could literally be a stay at home wife if he wanted me to.

Well, I just had our third child three weeks ago and have not been “taken care of” since having our first.

In fact, the very first day I came home with my newborn, I cleaned the entire house with no help from my husband. Then I went grocery shopping two days after having my baby. I have had to take all three kids with me everywhere. Whenever I need to do something like go to my dr appointments, I have to find and pay for a baby sitter to watch our children. I’m still paying half of our bills using my savings. Even though he makes more than enough to cover them all himself. I am still currently on maternity leave. This isn’t even half the things I’ve done since I been home with newborn. Breast feeding has been a complete nightmare. I haven’t showered in a week. Just washing up at this point. I am so completely and wholeheartedly drained.

Even though my husband knows all of this. He came to me today and expressed that he thinks I should go back to work early, because he was thinking of moving us into a bigger house and wanted me to start contributing more money into the household.

I told him that I was completely drained and honestly did not feel ready to go back to work yet.

I also got a little offended and asked when would it be my turn to be taken care of. Which cause him to get upset and we started arguing.

This whole situation has made me consider divorcing him, because I don’t know him anymore. This whole situation has lead me to believe that he doesn’t truly care about me and my well being like it do his. And ladies don’t misunderstand me here. I’m not trying to be a stay at home mom or nothing like that. I’m not a gold digger that’s only after money. I enjoy working as a teacher, but he’s been making me feel like that job isn’t enough. Like, back when we were younger, I made sure he was straight and bills were paid when he was down and I don’t understand why he’s not wanting to support me while I’m down, especially since it’s during moments like having a whole human. We are high school sweethearts and married for ten. This truly has broken my heart. I feel it’s unfair for him to request such a thing, especially being as he’s not even helping around the house but want me to contribute more financially. This has really bothered me and makes me look at him differently. And maybe I’m doing to much and looking to deeply into it, but this isn’t what I dreamed of when I decided to marry my best friend.