Need a break

My bf and I have been together 5 years, I’m at my parent’s house while he’s in our place since I’ve needed space and a family member recently passed which has led me to realizing that I need to get my life in order, pursue my dreams, and I feel like I need to do it outside of a relationship and to eventually live alone for the first time. I see him being someone that I can marry and have kids with down the road, but in the past year and half our relationship has been struggling. When talking about a future and marriage, has said it’s been hard bc I’ve become increasing negative and unmotivated. Which is not wrong, but I also feel like I’ve given up a lot of myself in the relationship and our most common argument is that our views on family/community are different. I love being with family and friends and they bring light into my life and he is not close to many people and thinks that I need to focus more on us and family/friends will not always be there. He has a rough family past while I come from a family that is always there and supportive and have some really great long term friends. Some of the elders of my family don’t care for him bc they feel like he does not care about the family. He’s avoided attending family events (many in NorCal while we live in SoCal) and out of 9 weddings we’ve only attended 2 together, making me feel alone while in a relationship. We travel well together and have fun, but are very much in the roommate phase right now, even sleeping in different rooms most nights. Our lease is up next month, he wants to stay together, but I want a break.

Has anyone been in a similar situation and it worked out in the end after some time apart, or am I not seeing the relationship for what it is and I need to move on?