Serious question about anxiety and having no friends!

So I am married with three kids, I got married when I was 18 and I am not 21. I lost most of my high school friends as they went away to college and we just no longer had anything in common. I was a victim of rape and abuse as I small child and have gone to therapy for years but still find it hard to open up to people. I have always be shy and am not overly friendly. People don't really tend to like having conversations with me. My therapist always gave me unrealistic way to make friends and I tend to get along better with male friends instead of female friends. Going out to do stuff can be hard for me as I have very bad anxiety if I am alone and if I am without someone I am comfortable with so I find it hard to go out and socialize! Any tips from people who are the same way. I also don't have a license as I cannot drive due to medical reasons and a husband who works long hours and three very young children so it is hard to coordinate alone time! But I am really getting lonely and need friends.