My dad asks me what I want for the baby for Christmas- his idea is a bassinet.

I say, yes that's great.

He confirms I want it white, because I want all of my baby furniture white, and he knows how picky I am.

I say yes, a white bassinet would be perfect, and sigh in relief, because there's no way he could get it wrong, I don't want any one in particular, as long as its White and a Bassinet...

But what does he do?

He goes out and gets me a pack n' play, which never come in white (only in color combos I find hideous like hot pink and black, red and black, orange and grey, etc), and aren't bassinets.

He didn't know this- my mom did and warned him so I guess he did- that I friggin HATE pack n' plays. I find them pointless unless you drop your baby off for sleepovers, or you go outdoors a lot. Even then, I find them pointless. Personal preference, just hate the things, always have. They aren't great for long term sleep in early stages (argue all your want that they are, they aren't for it), because the "bassinet" attachments aren't flat or hard surfaced. They're for naps, but not for sleeping, and I find the mattress flimsy and I would find them uncomfortable if I had to lay on them. If you like them, great, you used one and baby is healthy, cool- but I hate them and never wanted one. There's other outdoor and travel bassinets I like for those situations, but pack n' plays are just useless to me.

I'm always grateful for gifts, but when you ask me specifics of what I want, and then get the opposite, it's like why did you even ask?! Why make me the asshole who had to tell someone else to tell you that you got it wrong?! I know I sound ungrateful, but my parents have made me feel so un-listened to during this pregnancy- like they know best and there's no way things could have changed in the last 20 years since they had a kid last. Like I told them I'm going to go minimal and not buy a bunch of extra toys and contraptions and they're like "you'll see, you'll need this and that and this"- and I'm like no, I won't, because it's my baby and I know how I want to raise her. Like please, just listen for once!!! Especially when you ask me such exact questions!!! Just listen and help me out or let me do it myself and just buy me diapers or gift cards so I don't have to sound like an ungrateful asshole!!!