So many red flags and I should have listened

Hey y’all.  I am writing a list of the red flags in my relationship for the sake of my mental health.  I figure, if I write everything out and put it out there, I can’t hide behind it anymore and I can more easily come to the conclusion that I do need to leave my situation.  Bear with me…  Also, he is not a terrible person and does have some qualities that I love very much, but everything else is becoming too much for me.

·        He had me buy my engagement ring by myself in the ring store, using MY credit card

·        He tried to move me away from my family

·        He doesn’t like when I hang out with friends/ family

·        He gives me a hard time when I dress nice or wear makeup around other people

·        I have to send him pictures when I am out to prove where I am

·        He is not hands on with our daughter

·        He raped me

·        He calls me names

·        He points out everything I have done wrong and does not take accountability for his mistakes

·        His family is unstable

·        He does not like my family or friends

·        He prints out my bank statements, goes through my purse, my car, lays out my receipts or tags from things on the bed to shame me for spending my money

·        He does not trust me and never has…

·        He accuses me of sleeping with my brother in law or being in porn videos he watches

This makes me so sad.  I have been with him for 4 years and it’s just starting to get worse and worse with him.  I have tried to stick it out so that our daughter has us together, but it is really just not working.