Insanely jealous boyfriend?!

So I met my boyfriend almost one year ago. I told him I wasn’t looking for anything serious, but he started coming over and spending the night pretty quick off the bat and at times I wanted to confront him to let him know it’s too much too soon after the breakout I just had had. But I never did confront him. In December I was hospitalized and couldn’t work, therefore soon got evicted and I had nowhere to go and he offered his spare bedroom for me and my 2 kids. I of course had to take the offer but then in may I decided to move states. He followed me and I let him know I wanted to go alone and didn’t see a future with him. He said he felt the same and we started having arguments and eventually passed the “butterfly stage” if you could even call it that. I needed a little financial help after I’d moved so I decided to take his help and that’s my fault I know it. Now he’s here with me again and Neither of us see marriage out of this but we both need each other’s help financially. We haven’t had sex or anything in a month or two because I am not attracted to him physically which is horrible to say but it’s how I feel. I can’t keep doing this to my kids or me, we are better off alone. He acts like my boyfriend but when we argue it gets real and we both kinda know we don’t have feelings for each other. He is extremely bossy to the point of accusing me of cheating and doing stupid stuff multiple times every day. It’s mind blowing and really what started pushing me away. I need advice and tough love and kind words please. What am I doing. And yes I have got a job just am not making enough currently to pay the bills.