Are we only to turn to God?

I’m still learning the scripture and I’m trying my best to live my life through it.

However, I came across this recently, and I’m having a hard time with a current situation and while reading scripture, this verse stuck out to me:

Proverbs 29:11

“Fools vent their anger, but the wise hold it back”

And I’m wondering if I’m interpreting it wrong?

Now, I will admit I am one to vent, A LOT.

And in the past I have had issues saying things I did not mean when I was angry.

But, I am doing a lot better now and I’ve been able to come to issues clear headed and I’ve seen improvement with my relationships overall because of it.

Beforehand, I would tend to see something I didn’t like, make assumptions, then carry out my assumptions as if they were fact, and even spread that assumption.

Like, for a fictional example,

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I overheard my boyfriend who was outside on the phone with his mom after an argument with me say, “she’s so annoying”. I assumed he was talking about me, so I call my mom to say “my boyfriend thinks I am annoying but he did x,y, and z. Which makes him much more annoying than I am. ”. Later on, I confront my boyfriend about telling his mom I am annoying, then he clarifies he never called me annoying, he was telling his mom that our dog is annoying because while he was outside she wouldn’t stop digging up holes in the back yard.

At the end of the day, I would’ve been the “bad guy” because at the end of the day, I was the only one who was talking “smack”, even tho I did it in retaliation to *thinking* he did something he actually didn’t. And I saw a pattern of this over and over that God opened my eyes to.

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However, I’m in a current situation, where I am 99.5% I have majority of the facts. With the facts that have been presented, I have reason to believe I’ve been wronged. I am unsure whether I may need to file a lawsuit, but this is the first real issue I’ve had outside of our home since I’ve truly found God.

I’m trying to solve this issue in a way that is fair, and Godly. I am having a hard time not venting my frustrations, and I’ve failed to do so on a few occasions because I still want to understand EXACTLY why what happened , happened. I do feel like with the issue at hand, I should leave a review on how horrible I had been treated, to warn others, but I know I am still angry and hurt.

I guess what I’m asking is,

Where do you think the line is drawn when it comes to venting anger and searching for justice?

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When it comes to leaving negative reviews, do you look at it as a vent or do you look at it as a warning? Do you think it depends on the context and what was said?

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If you have a terrible experience somewhere, do you think God would want us to warn others about it after trying to get reconciliation or as soon as we feel its a threat to others safety and well-being, even if you don’t 100% have all of the facts?

I know I’m probably overthinking this, but I’ve lived a long time without having God as my guide and now that I have Him, I am trying to do my best to do things right now. I don’t want to continue patterns and I want to bring glory to His name.