What is the deal

My husband has threatened divorce again. Everytime he gets pissy he says divorce. He won’t take his bipolar meds. He won’t do anything except sleep anymore even though he landed a dream job for himself. Hes always bringing up the past before I ever knew him which is meaningless to me, and accusing me of things even though he knows better. We even have Life360 so we both can see where each other is at any given time. I have no passcode on my phone. And he goes off tonight saying I’m hiding something because for the first time in forever I turned my phone on silent cause I was screenshotting medical records from my portal and I knew he would start (when I screenshot he’s always like, what are you doing, are you taking a selfie, etc) I handed him my phone because some random drug looking girl tried to call me via messenger on my message requests. I have no idea who it is. I did message asking who she is and why she called though. But still no reason to go off on me.... it’s not a big deal. Meanwhile, he doesn’t want sex much anymore. Only blowjobs really. Always trying to pick fights. Oh not to mention he knows I’m against porn and we have discussed this thoroughly in the past...he would always agree and say I don’t need that stuff it does nothing for me I have you I love you blah blah. Wellll Tuesday I picked up his phone and he was looking at a porn site! He was half asleep on the couch so I assume he forgot to clear. He always clears safari browser. I instantly locked myself in the bathroom and he kept knocking saying baby let me in that’s not what it looks like I heard them talking about a sex tape on the radio and wanted to see if it was true and who was in it .. umm for one, he went through like 6pages. And the radio station he said it was wouldnt have talked about a sex tape. Then he got mad at ME for accusing him of watching porn. Swears he didn’t. But six pages? Really. And knowing how that stuff makes me feel in general, he shouldn’t have even. And also i felt like if he was legit about the radio crap he would’ve searched ____ sex tape. The search was simply sex porn.