My boyfriends brother is creeping me out. He’s our roommate!

I apologize if this is too long to read. But I don’t know what to do.

My boyfriend and I have known one another since high school, and his other two brothers as well. Back then, I had a huge crush on my bf, but he didn’t really see me that way. But we hung in a group of us, me being the only girl of the group. We just recently reconnected and moved the relationship pretty fast. I’m excited for our future together.

HOWEVER, my boyfriend owns his own home, and his OLDER brother lives with him and is kinda a loser and sits around and hides out in his room all day and plays video games and smokes pot (nothing against people who smoke, but you get the idea of his personality).

His brother works, but at some dead end job, no ambition in his life, while his two younger brothers are just great human beings. I mention this bc this ties into the story. One day, while he’s at work, I was cooking topless, bc I figured it was just my bf and I thought what the hell? Who needs to get dressed on a lazy Sunday? Well, In he walks on his lunch break. I immediately come out, put an oven Mit over my breast and say, “Hey, James, I’m topless, I didn’t know you were gonna be home and I’m cooking.” I couldn’t leave what I was doing and thought he’d go into his room, bc he couldn’t see me going to his room, but no. He comes up right up next to me, and places cookies down right next to where I was cooking. Cookies that he had taken from his brother without permission. There were so many places he could of placed them. That was the first time.

Second time, my bf and I were getting ready to go on vaccination. I decided to put on self tanner before going. Anyone who’s used self tanner knows you gotta let it dry before clothing. So I stepped in the doorway of our bedroom and told my bf, “I’ll come out and help ya pack in a bit but I’m naked waiting for my tanner to dry.” Not even a minute later, here comes James. I got so pissed, I slammed the door.

Third time, it’s 1am, we leave our door open bc it gets hot and it’s the only way to keep our room cool. He usually never walks by our bedroom door but there he is, randomly walking by our bedroom door. My bf works nights, so I was alone, and yes, I was topless. He had no business walking by our door and never does.

This gets better, I promise, stay with me. So remember when I said, I’ve known them since high school?? Well, I just found out that while in high school he tried committing suicide because he was convinced he’d never have me and tried killing himself over it. I’m shook, I never even knew he liked me like that back then. And now I’m living with this guy. I get it, it was back in high school, but he was already giving me creep vibes and I want him out of the house. I’ve been wanting him out, but even more now.

How do I handle this? Am I overreacting? I don’t even wanna be in the house alone with him anymore. My bf wants him out too, but he won’t freakin leave. With or without him being weird, I don’t want my SO’s brother living with us. We’re gonna get married and trying to start a family. Not to mention the guest bathroom is pure disgusting. I can’t even have guest come stay bc of it. I want him OUT. My SO seems to be dragging his feet on it. But this is suppose to be my home and I’m suppose to feel safe in it and I don’t. What do I do?

EDIT: My bf and I are actively TTC, so this is very much my home. We plan on marrying very soon. Also, my bf has wanted his bro out before I even got there. But bc he’s a loser he hasn’t. He makes good money and doesn’t need help with rent and his bro hardly even pays rent