Phone question.

Hey, I’m sorry I’m posting in your parenting group, but you’re the people I’m wanting to target- I need help.

My 16 yr. old brother and I (19) both have smartphones. We both hold jobs, I just graduated with honors last spring, and my brother does well in school. Neither one of us is involved in wild stuff, we’re not out with friends, and I think both of us would be considered “good” kids? Whatever.

I think this is mostly miscommunication, resulting in general frustration between all parties, but I don’t know how to address it. So a typical run in would look like this:

I’m on my phone, Mom decides I’m spending too much time on it, and complains to Dad, without saying anything to me. Dad gets home from work, says that all phones should always remain in the kitchen, unless we are AT WORK. It usually follows by a long scolding. Next day, or sometimes a little later, Mom will message me something (we’re both at home), a question, letting me know something, whatever. I won’t see it, because I don’t spend my days in the kitchen, and she gets upset because I’m ignoring her. She complains to Dad because no one respects her, listens to her, etc, but Dad also hasn’t told her that he said all devices in the kitchen. Or, Dad will ask me to research or read up on something for him.... It happens to both me and my brother, but I really don’t know how to confront or fix it. I offered to help him link devices so he can see everything that goes on- no, that’s unnecessary. Make it just mandatory that screen time screenshots should be sent to him every weekend? ( side note, I typically average about 3-4 hours screen time daily )Also unnecessary. I don’t know what to do, but this happens at least every week, and I’d like to do something to help settle it. If I were your kid, how would you want me to come to you about it?