Help hubby with getting car

Ok so try to make this short as possible my husband and I where only just dating at the time and we both had a vehicle. I sold mine to help him out when he was going through a hard time.

so here we are married im a stay at home wife/mom we share his car and I was driving the car and someone ran a red light hit me. I fixed the car with no help $2700 later…

now my husband is a great man takes care of the home and finances works two jobs and is very supportive.

Fast forward my husband was one day asked a question he didn’t like and stormed out the house (he’s never done this) and soon as he leaves crashes our vehicle it’s going to be totaled out. He Lowkey blames me like I shouldn’t have upset him idc how mad u are you don’t leave driving angry.

Thankful he’s ok materialistic things can be replaced.

so now here is the thing I feel once u get married u become one. We always put our money in pot together he says take out w e u need for bills and stuff. Same for I if income comes in goes in pot. But

(So I recently am coming across some money back owed to me for past two years I Been fighting for and plans on saving it in our savings. Saving it for our future we are Ttc right now.

so I was going to give him my check to assist in getting a new vehicle for us like I said he’s the man who works and takes care of home so I feel if it where other way around idk I don’t think it’s fair to even hold on to money and watch ur other half struggles even if the reason behind it when he try so hard to take care.

I’m being told that’s stupid and I shouldn’t put up a dime towards a new vehicle

ladies what u think?