Am I wrong?

Am I wrong to not be super compassionate?

Ok so long story short:

My life partner (not married but I've been a stepmom to his kids for 9 years and we have a kid together) Has never really been very respectful towards me. He used me for money, even though he feels I am not allowed to even think that, I do think it's truth. He used me as a babysit. He used me for sex, even against my wil. we're working full time and I have been basically sacrificing my paychecks for them as I don't have anything for myself and don't have any say. I am wanting to leave this relationship and he knows. - I will be leaving as soon as I have a steady contract at my new job as I'd be rejected for housing atm. (I'm expecting to get a contract in June)

So we've been in financial trouble and it absolutely bothers me that in the last 4-6 years he's been in medical leave for 4-10 months per year. We're in Europe and he still gets a check, but it's about half of a regular paycheck so it helps, if you're really in trouble but you really truly cannot live off it. So since he's already taking off so much of the finances that I earn, and I am also financially co-paying for his kids for all this time.. This is just frustrating to me and it's stressfull, I don't want to be in financial burden. I don't want to be stressed all the time over money, because I earn good money but it's all spent on them. I have a wedding coming up that I'm attending and I can't even pinch off 50€ to get an appropriate dress (the last time I attended a wedding I was in a white dress because I had nothing else to wear, It was not at all weddingdresslike but I was still embarrassed as I was well aware it wasn't appropriate)

So anyways usually my partner works nights and I work days and I'm so sick of being around him all the time, he's pretty damn controlling and he's just no fun to be around.. He's been taking days off and staying home last minute because he knows I like my peace at night - and therefore assumes I'm cheating - and it sucks to have to throw around my planning on his behalf all the time.

Today he calls me at work.

He's going to the hospital because he dropped something heavy on his foot.

I'm like "Oh noo 🙄😒 what did you do?" and he's like "Wow you' re compassionate, how about" Omg baby are you ok??? ""

I'm like "well I asked you what you did" (made it sound a little more compassionate this time around)

so the story is that he dropped something heavy on his foot and now he's off to the hospital.

Like I had a rough last week, a busy weekend. I really wanted to have this low stimulating evenings, as I get overstimulated. I hate that he's fucking up my planning and I hate that I can't do what I want this evening (after our kid goes to bed) and I feel like at this point he just did this on purpose to just stay at home to check that I'm not being visited by another dude 🙄 (he admitted to, in fact very proudly anekdoted, breaking his leg when he was younger to get out of school, I wouldn't be surprised if he would do this again)

I'm at the point of breaking down in tears at my job because I really needed the chill this evening. That's where I'm at.

@🥰Nancy🥰

You are absolutely right. I didn't consider your comment rude because you're just completely correct.

I grew up in an abusive household, with a mentally ill mom, a physically abusive brother, divorced parents. My first romantic relationship was abusive. This relationship was differently abusive. I didn't really know much better. I am about to be 30 and I am just dicovering that I have value. Which I am really proud of. and kinda sad about it taking so long.