MIL drives me crazy sometimes
Generally my MIL is a cool person and all that. Then other times I feel like her comments are annoying or just odd. I have an iCloud share folder that I put pictures of my daughter in and have it linked up to certain family members. I put one in today and said she's growing a lot and getting really tall. She comments and says "just like *insert my stepsons name*". Yes my stepson who is 14 is quite tall. But he's my height I'm like 5'8" or 5'9". My husband is 5'10". My daughter is only partially related to her brother via my husband so her height shouldn't be compared to his. It's like it kills my MIL to acknowledge that MY daughter will be like me. My side of the family is all tall. My husband's side is generally short, my husband is lucky to be as tall as he is. Yes this annoys me because my MIL gets really sensitive and bent out of shape when things aren't all about her.
I try to give my MIL some slack because I am my husbands 3rd wife and I feel she takes out previous issues from the other two on me. Like she's waiting for me to cheat on my husband and leave like the other 2 did. Well I'm not. My husband is a great guy. I've dated the worst of it in my past so I know I have a good one. Besides I wouldn't have married him if I didn't think so. 😍. I've always felt tension from her like she's constantly sizing me up and judging whether I'm taking care of the kids well enough. Like she is the only one capable of caring for them and not even my husband can do it. Well each of his sons from both marriages before live full time with is. Their moms choose to not be as involved.
The 8 year old has selective hearing. He chooses to not pay Attention or listen to what you say or easily forgets. So let's say he has a bug bite. He gets them easily. He scratches them until it's so bad. Meanwhile I've put everything on it possible and I tell him to not scratch it. But he goes to school and somehow makes a huge deal of his big bite and I get a call from the school nurse who acts like I'm not caring for him. Then he comes home and says we'll only the stuff the nurse put on helps. 🙄.
Other times the 8 year old will ask me something and I'll say okay I'll get it later or whatever. Like he needs more underwear that fit or shorts. But before I get a chance to go to the store he ends up sleeping over at grandmas during the same weekend I buy what he needs. When we go pick up from MIL house she's like oh well he said you didn't get him new "whatever" and it was too small. Like I was supposed to instantly buy it for him and we are bad parents. It's like OMG. I get so frustrated with the 8 year old sometimes too. Not everything is a personal crisis if it takes me 2 days to get something it's not the end of the world. It doesn't mean I love you less. Then whatever it is I seemed to "forget" to get him in an urgent matter is the topic of conversation forever. He'll "report" it to my mom and his mom when she calls. Meanwhile his mom does nothing.
Yes it falls on me. Comments are directed to me regarding his overall wellness. I love my two sons tremendously and my husband and I literally do all we can for them.
I'm tired of the MIL pissing contest. I'm tired of being the bad guy because I didn't run out the second my son asked me for something.
Anyone else have this situation? I can't imagine I'm the only one. 😒
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