Question in regards to sex life.

So my SO was VERY open with me tonight. A little background.

We just got an apartment together and moved in. I felt as though there was a significant amount of tension once the move was done and we began our new journey together. Anyway, lately I been super horny and I thought something was wrong with me or that he was falling it of love with me. At this time he told me he felt abandoned like we were losing our spark. When he said this I thought of what our pastor said about how having a relationship or even difficulties in one. Pastor said, “ find what brought you together in the first place.” Meaning what made you fall in love to begin with.

Today we had sex and I let my horniness take control telling him how I wanted to do all this stuff with him. Well l, maybe about an hour ago he texted me from work stating, I have to tell you something.” Well he told me he has Erectile Dysfunction. Since we only live up the road from his job I had to go see him. I could tell in the text it bothered him to tell me. When I saw him I could tell he was crying so I asked what was wrong and he told me he felt bad cause he made me believe that I was the problem meaning. I felt as though it was me being ugly, too fat, not pretty enough, and so on. This man was in tears and I didn’t know how to comfort him as I know this was hard in general for him to tell me.

I guess I’m reaching out not because it bothers me but because I wanna know what are other things we both can do to get pleasure so he doesn’t have to take the pill everyday. I wanna share with him thoughts I get back in feedback so he knows it’s not just about sex. So please share your thoughts.