Advice, please. 😞

Hello, everyone. I’m looking for some advice on a situation that I’m currently struggling with..advanced warning, this may get long.

When my fiancé and I first got together, we disclosed with each other that we had both been in controlling relationships before we met, and shared stories about our friends of the opposite sex, and basically agreed that having opposite sex friends wasn’t something that would cause an issue to either of us.

Months later, I start noticing that his phone is ALWAYS going off..I start to look at his lock screen, just out of curiosity, I know, it was wrong to do. But it was constantly girls, multiple, ones that I’ve never even heard him mention. So, I addressed this with him,

told him that female friends were fine, but that I wasn’t convinced that him having Snapchat communication with 10+ different females a day was just platonic friendliness. He sided with me, and understood why it was upsetting, and immediately blocked anyone who wasn’t an actual “friend.”

So..here we are, a couple months after this, and I get a phone call from him my sister, and she’s telling me that she and a couple friends saw him alone at a gas station with a female friend. No biggie, though I did ask him about it, because he told me that he had just gone home to work on his car. He denied it, and told me that there were several people there, including her boyfriend, and he had just walked over to chat when my sister pulled in. It made me a bit weary, but I brushed it off.

A month or so after this, he calls me at work. He’s upset, asking why my sister had messaged this female friend asking if there was something going on..I called her, and she explained to me that a mutual friend of the two had said that this girl told him that my fiancé was making her uncomfortable, messaging on Snapchat saying that she was beautiful, etc etc..of course, I talked to him. I’ve not always been perfect in relationships, so, I tried to be understanding. I explained to him that I no longer felt comfortable with this friendship, due to the issues that it had continuously caused in our relationship. He understood, and blocked her from Snapchat. K begged him to understand that that wasn’t what I was pushing doe at all, but he proceeded to do so.

Things were great for another month or so. We’re having a pretty heated argument in the car, and all of the sudden, his phone rings..it’s her. That really pissed me off, and I explained to him that I had felt lied to. He never discussed this with me, and was completely in agreement with our relationship being more important than this problematic friendship. Yet, here she is..calling him out of nowhere.

So, my question..am I being unreasonable? Before we met, I had recently left a marriage where unfaithfulness played a huge role in our divorce..so, maybe I’m just being dramatic?

If you agree with me, can you please tell me how you would handle this situation? I don’t want him to think that I don’t trust him, but at the same time, I want him to know that I do feel a but untrusting considering the circumstances.

I just need help with this. 😞