Losing a twin

Hello,

I’m hoping for some advice. My sister is pregnant with twin girls, and the other day she lost one of them. She’s about 20 weeks along. We talk all day everyday, but since it happened, I’ve not heard back from her.

I texted her to tell her I love her and I’m always here if she wants to talk, come visit or if she wants me to visit her.

I don’t want to be pushy, and I don’t expect her to text me like everything is fine. But I do want to continue to show love and support for her. I’m also planning her baby shower for next month and I’m not sure how to proceed.

I just want to give her space but I also want to somehow help her through this time. She’s had a super difficult pregnancy but even then, this loss came as a shock.

It also doesn’t help that she REALLY wanted one of the babies to be a boy because she doesn’t want to go through this again and our cousin just announced she’s having a boy (the day she lost one of the twins).

Please help with any advice. Do I just plan the shower how I think she’d like it? Keep trying to talk to her? Back off and give her complete space? I dont know. I can’t just “drop by” bc she lives six hours away but I’d totally go see her if I knew she wanted it.