How can I make my fiancé pick up after himself?

I am soooooo fed up with how lazy and inconsiderate he is when it comes to our home. He leaves his socks everywhere, will throw his dirty laundry NEXT to our laundry basket and leaves it there until I pick it up, he doesn’t help with the dishes or even throw out the trash until I tell him to do it. And he will bitch and moan when I demand he do it because “you can do it too”. Of course I can do it honey, I do it ALL THE FUCKING TIME. He had to work today I go to the bathroom to brush my teeth to see that he dropped our Q-tips on the floor and DECIDED he wouldn’t pick it up. I am just tired of it. I come from a very poor family. I’m talking about 9 kids living in a single type poor. Every apartment we moved to always became a mess after a while with how many children lived in it. I never had my own room, never had privacy, I’d clean and clean and it would be back to square one because my siblings did not care. So I have no patience with dirty people. It almost makes me explode. My fiances mother was never around to teach him how to clean, cook, anything a parent does, she didn’t do. So I had patience with him, I used to clean his room all the time when I would sleep over. I couldn’t stand how he had this amazing big room to himself and would consciously decide to leave it a mess. I was almost shocked by it. Now I live with him and he triggers my childhood memories. Idk if I’m exaggerating but I don’t see why he can’t be considerate after seeing how spotless I leave our home. We both work. We’re both tired. We both take care of our toddler. What can I do to make him understand my feelings? I knew he was lazy but some of the things he’s done are just too much.