Do I wait for him?

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My husband went to jail. He’s a felon, he was caught with 2 weapons and some THC. He carry’s these bc of who his family is. He’s not a addicted and he’s a good guy has a temper but a wonderful heart. We’ve been trying to have a baby and we’ve been married a year. Being a felon means he can go away for a long time. I feel like idk what to do, i hear family telling me all these different things. I just want some advice from people who don’t know me or him. I love him but I also want to be a mom, do I wait for him? If I don’t does that make me a bad person?

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Sorry you don't become a felon by being a good person. No I don't believe you can be both my father was arrested several times as a child. I think its a horrible thing to bring a child into that. Sorry divorce, move on and have a family with someone who doesn't do stupid shit and drag you along with them.

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He needs to carry a gun despite being a felon because of “who his family is” & you wanna have a baby with him?

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Having a child with someone who has a temper is risky imo. You get so stressed out with a baby and if he can't control his temper...... That's not a good combination.
Please don't bring a child into the world with someone who goes in and out of jail.
A child deserves better.

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My husband went to prison when we first got together and we got married a year after he got out. As of now hes a felon but once hes off probation all his charges should be dropped. He isnt a bad guy either. His brother in law beat his sister up so he beat the shit out of him.. which he deserved but they pressed charges and lied... but if you truly love someone and want to have a future with them I would stay and wait.. in the long run itll be just a tiny bump in the road.

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Felon who carries illegal weapons...with a temper...nope definitely not a good guy and you’d be a dumbass to have a child with someone like this who will probably never be able to get a legitimate job to cover bills, who keeps drugs and illegal weapons in the house around children. Nope nope nope

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Personally, I wouldn’t want to be with someone who or get pregnant by someone who breaks the law, especially if it’s on multiple occasions. If he was okay knowingly risking going back to jail by disrespecting the rules put in place for him, I would doubt he’d respect relationship boundaries either. 
All that being said, do what feels right to you, this is your life to live. Just be smart and protect yourself.

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How long is he supposed to be incarcerated for? If it's a year, you can put off having a baby for a year or two. When he gets out, he can go do a union apprenticeship program and become an ironworker or plumber and make a great living and support you and the kids. 
When all of this is over, it might be worth a discussion about seeing if his parole officer and the courts will let you all move somewhere where he doesn't feel like he needs to carry a weapon for his and/or your safety.

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Hes your husband. You knew who he was when you married him. Marriage isnt a quick in and out thing. Its up to you but id say next time around dont get married u less youre sure

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Why would you want to get yourself caught up in such a mess? A good  person doesn't just become a felon. "Who his family is" that's just a excuse people go cold turkey on their family an never speak to them again, there's no need to keep a gun, u guys could just move far away. Since he has a temper at some point that can put you an your child in danger what if he loses control an uses the gun? Would that be a wake up call for u then? Move on with someone else.

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I wouldn’t wait for him tbh. You shouldn’t have to put your life on hold because he fucked up.

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