Dads and husbands that help?

So on here and on some mom fb groups I’m a part of I get so sad because so many women post how their husbands/bfs/baby daddies don’t help with the kids or around the house. Like I knew I did better with the husband deal than my mom because she was in a physically abusive relationship and then moved on to an emotionally abusive relationship (because unfortunately in her mind not getting hit makes it not abuse). So I was super careful about who I dated and ended up marrying. But to see so many moms in situations where they get little to no help with the kids is just heart breaking. It honestly just hurts my heart that so many women are struggling like that 😞