Disrespecting Me & Invading My Privacy

Hi ladies. It’s been a while since I’ve posted here. I have learned to not complain about my problems and my husband here but I need some perspective. My husband is constantly telling our friends things about me and making me look bad. I have tried to talk to him but he doesn’t see the problem.

Today he offered in a group chat with some of our friends to but something for them that we can’t afford and without talking to me. Our friends said they couldn’t let us do that. After I read the text I looked at my husband, laughed, and said “I can’t let us do that” and he turned around and told them I said I don’t want to help them out...

He does this very often. He tells our friends things I say to him all the time. He will even tell them things I say as a joke to him but he’ll twist it to make me sound like bitch. Or I will have an idea and he will tell people it was his idea and if I reveal it was mine he acts like I’m lying even though he’s lying. I don’t understand why he goes out of his way to make me look bad and embarrass me. I know longer feel safe talking to him because I don’t know who he will tell or how he will twist it.

He has even told them my secrets. Things I would never want other people to know. I have tried talking to him about it but he doesn’t see why it’s a big deal. I got fed up with it this morning and I text my best friend about it to vent, get her opinion, and get some advice on how to handle it. Well my husband tried to read my texts and I asked him not to. He got super weird with me and the first chance he got took my phone and tried to read them. I told him I didn’t want him reading them and I would talk to him when I’m ready. Now he’s being pouty and acting super paranoid.

I’m so beyond frustrated with him. I have zero privacy. He is constantly asking who I’m texting and reading my texts over my shoulder. I can’t have anything private. I don’t know what to do between not being able to trust him with anything, not getting any privacy, and him not caring/understanding where I’m coming from. Am I in the wrong? What can I do?