Am I Overreacting????

I get the message and I know I’m not overreacting, but sometimes it helps to get the opinions of others bc it makes it easier seeing things how they really are. I’ll try to make this short and thanks ahead to anyone who reads it all. My 7 month olds father and I are currently in a relationship and although their have been major struggles, partly do to cultural differences, we are trying to make it work. My feelings are hurt at this very moment because he has decided to do Christmas on his own. We live separately and he has decided to have his friends and their girlfriends over to his house to celebrate. I have asked him for weeks now what the plan for Christmas was and he hasn’t wanted to discuss it. He mentioned a friend from out of town coming over and a friend from here that I met once on Thanksgiving. I kept asking what we were gonna do and he said he didn’t like planning things bc when he does things never go as planned. I have continuously asked bc Thanksgiving we had at his place and planned it together. We cooked together, invited my family and his friend and of course had the kids with us. The mere fact that he’s wanting to do Christmas differently and on his own is very suspicious to me. He won’t even tell me everyone that’s coming just says my friends and their girls. So I asked if he was cooking and he said he picked some things up and told his friends that their women can come and cook the food. Wth??? So I asked if he was coming in the morning to watch the kids open their gifts and he said not if his friends are already there. So you put your friends over family??? He says what’s so special about seeing the kids open their gifts and that is a family thing. I thought we were a family......we share a child and are supposed to be moving forward together but we’re not family??? He says if he has time he’ll come but if not oh well. Then he asks to come over at 1:30 this morning like I’m some booty call. That is not what I am. I proceed to tell him how wrong he is for not including me in his plans and he says he knows I’m cooking at my own house and that I’ll be busy all day with my family. All of this is assumptions bc we never had a discussion. Like I wasn’t even invited. He says that I can come over if I want but that’s up to me. I feel like he has someone that’s coming over for him and that’s why he doesn’t want me there. I just don’t know how to proceed from here. If he doesn’t want me or this relationship, then why can’t he just be man enough to say that. I have put up with so much from this man including verbal and emotional abuse, yet I stay. He complains about me not wanting to move in with him but I’m terrified that his anger and nasty words will trickle down to my kids and I don’t want my kids to endure that. I can barely endure it and I love him more that anything. If I laid out everything he has done to me and put me through throughout this relationship you’d all call me dumb for staying..............and I know I’m dumb..........I know I’m stupid.......but I keep holding to that last glimmer of hope that he’ll change and start to love me the way that I love him. Whenever I try to leave he comes back on his knees begging and pleading that he loves me and can’t live without me yet he continues to treat me like nothing and talk down to me like a child. If I block him he pops up at my apartment...........he’s even walked up on me getting out my car. Anytime I threaten to go away where he can’t find me, he tells me he knows where my family stays and where I work so he’ll find me. I just don’t know what to do. Any advice would be helpful at this point. I really just want to go over and give him his gift and break up with him for good.........but I don’t know how.