Makes him less of a man? (18+)

I’m 20F dating a 29M. We’ve been together about a year and a half. We’ve had our ups and downs but overall we’ve been decently happy together. We want to move forward with our relationship as in terms of living together and being able to grow together but one thing is always holding us back, our sex life. Its always been less than ideal and we try to work things out but the main issue is that I never orgasm. Through my own discoveries I’ve discovered that I can’t orgasm without clit stimulation through the form of a vibe. I’ve explained this to him mainly times in detail but he never really seemed to care. He just gets upset claiming he tries to give me an orgasm on his own through trying to “last longer”. That’s nowhere near the issue. Our last few sessions of sex I honestly felt zero pleasure from any of it, I’ve grown so bored of it due to it being so one sided. I didn’t even really care to fake a moan. This has apparently made him feel insecure to the point its affecting his masturbation. He claims he cums far to fast and he believes it’s due to our poor sex life. I’ve explained to him once again the issues and he claims if we add a vibe or any toys to the sex, it makes him feel like less of a man to not be able to make me cum on his own. I showed him scientific articles explaining why I can’t do it with just him but he claims it will just hurt his ego. I don’t understand where we go from here. I want to stay with him and build a life with him but I don’t understand how to make him feel confident in himself with this. I don’t see the issue with adding a toy as we both own toys to use in our self pleasure but suddenly we can’t have one when we are together? We’ve tried it maybe twice but each time he would get annoyed with it and didn’t even understand where the clit was even after i literally showed him. I would hold the vibe myself but he would claim even a small one is in the way refusing to do more helpful positions or he doesn’t like how it feels.....Any suggestions?

Story short: boyfriend doesn’t like to add toys in bed, makes him feel insecure, I can’t cum without them so our sex life is in the trash.