Advice on being friends with married man

Update: So I had a chat with him and told him my concerns. He basically said he sees me as a close friend and loves me like family. He is sure his wife would be ok with our interactions and she has heard some of our conversations while we worked from home and she didnt say anything. He knows she’d say something if she thought it was too friendly. She is familiar with me since we have worked together for 3 years and knows of me. As far as him only really being close to me at work it’s because he realizes most woman would flirt with him. He’s aware he is looked at. He deals with the flirting every day and I’m not like that. He did say I’m attractive and should understand that. He’s not dumb and knows I’m a gorgeous girl but it’s my heart. He thinks I’m a good honest friend and we just click. The other men we work with give him a hard time like the women make remarks to me. So he said he will make more of an effort to shut down the innuendoes for my sake. He jokingly suggested we kiss each other’s screens next zoom meeting and give them what they want so we can move on. Maybe if we stop denying our friendship and take out the mystery it won’t be such a hot topic.

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He’s not cheating on his wife with me. We have never met in person. I’m single. We are exactly the same age. He lives a state over and we started our friendship through our company. Our offices are affiliates and we zoom and have constant communication for work. Like with other coworkers I’m constantly talking with, we have each other’s personal snap chat and we interact on there daily as well. It’s nothing like nudes or sexual things. He will send me like sweet videos or comment on my story. Things like “good morning, you were awesome on that project, you’re great, kickass, hope you have a good day, let me know how you liked (whatever he saw on my story).” They are very sweet and they are always related to our job or just random snap chat type of things. He’s never said I’m pretty or anything like hitting on me. I’ve asked around to other girls we work with and they say he doesn’t interact with them on personal accounts just work. So I’m the only one he is doing this with and I didn’t realize it. I thought he just had that personality. He’s super attractive and fit so I almost expected him to be a flirt but he def talks to me more than other coworkers. It’s enough to where another woman at work made the comment to “share him” with the rest of the girls. In meetings we are the dynamic duo. Now I feel like I’ve lead him on and in too deep. This is going on 3 years and we know each other very well now. I’ve had relationships during this time and he knows about them all and still messages me the same if I’m single or seeing someone. I think of him as a brother and actually want to keep our friendship. I think the friendship is genuine and we do relate to each other and help each other. Does this sound like a guy just waiting for a chance to cheat or an actual friend? I know cheating can also mean emotional cheating but I really don’t think he relies on me emotionally we just goof off and he’s like a motivational “Yas bitch” friend.