Husband is depressed

I'm not sure if I just need a safe place to vent or need advice. I'm concerned about my husband.

We have fallen on financial hardship. We have always done everything right and due to home emergency issues it wiped us out. Then his work has been cutting back his hours. The plan has always been for me to be a stay at home mom with our young kids but that had to change and I'm now working evenings. He's exhausted he says working all day then doing evenings alone.

I'm trying so hard to make everything positive. I do all the cooking, cleaning, and now I'm working too. Also do all the children's stuff such as one had surgery recently, doctors appointments, bathtime, lessons, playdates.

This past weekend I had to go to the foodshelf to get food for the first time ever. He just has been crying none stop about how he can't provide for us. I have tried to say all the right things and I'm trying to hold it all together. I am exhausted too. He is now upset because he doesn't want to do evenings alone anymore that he is too tired from his physical job. I get it I don't get home till 9pm and I'm still nursing the baby at night so I don't get solid sleep.

I'm just at a loss here. I am praying. I'm working my ass off. I'm holding it together. Out of desperation for him to feel like I man I gave him a blow job. I'm talking him up all the time. He is just spiraling down so low. I don't know how to help him. I want to fall apart and I can't afford to.

Here is what I've tried

A vbudget that takes the pressure off of him.

•Sex

•Working

•Child rearing stuff

•We did a free date night that we get once a year

•household stuff such as laundry, cooking, dishes

•I'm in a no spend month to get us caught up on bills

•food shelf to get us groceries

•My mom offered to buy new carseat for baby and help me with birthday party expenses for first birthday party

•I'm trying to be upbeat

•we've had family fun days outside at parks for free over the weekend

•I take care of the pets

•I'm trying to get him to talk about other topics and interests

We are so deeply in love and he is such a good provider our situation isn't his fault and I'm trying so hard to hold it together I'm worried I'm going to fall apart too. Then who will carry us.