I don’t want to feel as resentful & disappointed

My guy told me he was planning for us to have a romantic trip and when he had a few beers (twice) brought up it would be an engagement break.

Hey told me this in July and was planning it for end of Oct.. (been and gone now it’s November).

We are both in our 40’s. Both never married. I have said to him I won’t live with him pre marriage. His ex of 9 years did this and no commitment.

Anyway, he only last week told another couple while we were out for dinner how we were planning the day soon…

I actually lifted up my hand and showed them ? I joked you are a bit cart before the horse! No engagement has happened.

I wasn’t expecting a holiday. It was him who said it and now I just feel so resentful and disappointed he’s got my hopes up.

He apparently did well for himself in a business venture and I’m staring to think it’s not been the truth. As financially he’s good to every one else and not us as a couple. I have my own job, home and pay my own bills. I don’t want him for finance.

We literally have no plans ever! The meal last week was a one off for a favour he did. I just feel so upset and emotional now.

He has over promised and made himself out financially comfortable and it seems he’s totally like the rest of us living pay check to pay check .. (why the delay on the engagement I feel).

I didn’t fall in love with him for money. It was him and his amazing personality. !

But I’m sick fed up him looking after everyone else and not us being able to move on.. I had it out with him last week after the meal about why on earth was he telling a table of people we planned to marry and not even an engagement?? It’s really poor taste. !!!!!????

Or can anyone give me their views on this.

When I spoke to him he said then the ‘ engagement was coming’. To me it’s when he saves up ??? But no weekend break will happen as we needed flights booked and he knows I have to book time off in work !

I’m so good to this man in every way !! I couldn’t wait on the ttc journey and set about it… we have been discussing this at length and also have had the fertility tests. (Trying as can take 12-24 months at 40). I also said I don’t want to be at the alter pregnant. Still he’s done nothing about it ???? !!! But seems all for it in his chats ?

Yet he’s away telling his closest friends we are planning it ?? I really don’t understand