Ex-husband to be torture

My husband and I are separating, we’re stuck living in the same home until May when the school year ends. I am not filing for divorce, I told him I would sign over the rights to the home if he returns the footprints from our first born who passed away. His mother has them and I have been asking him to get them back from her for years but he refuses and I believe it’s to torture me to some extent.

Today I asked my daughter if she wanted a sandwich, he said he would like one as well and I jokingly said I wouldn’t make him one because he’s been poking at me all day. I was definitely going to make him a sandwich, I’ve been making him food this whole time. I put the sandwich items back and as I was turning to take them back out he said.

“You don’t have to make me a sandwich, don’t spend another dime on anything”

I thought he was joking, he was not. He said:

“I’m serious, don’t spend money on anything else and I don’t care what it is. I don’t care what happens to these kids, they can go to foster care for all I care.”

I responded with

“What kind of man says something like that about his children”

To which he responded with:

“What kind of woman refuses to make something to eat for her husband”

I told him that we both decided that he wouldn’t be my husband anymore and he told me that as long as I live under his roof he’s my husband.

I’m making the sandwiches and he said:

“Yeah, you better make those sandwiches”

He also threatened to not pay the mortgage anymore. He also said he doesn’t care and that I need to divorce him and get half from the house so that he can victimize himself and make me look bad. I don’t want child support or spousal support, I want out of this hell hole. I don’t have any money for gas to take the children to school and he will not do it.

Only positive thing about this is the fact that I was able to pull everything he said from the security cameras if we ever get into a custody battle for the children.

*I don’t want to file for divorce because I’m afraid. This man has been mentally and verbally abusive, I don’t have anymore fight in me. Every ounce of energy I have left in me I need for my children and I don’t want anything from him but my freedom. I also believe he’s trying to bully me into filing for divorce so that I’ll be the one who broke up our family. I don’t have any money to hire a lawyer and I’m afraid of what he might be able to do me with whatever lawyer he can hire.