SAHM vs Work Mom

This is a controversial topic, I know. I’m not posting this to stir up any problems or fights. I’m posting this to share my personal experience and my personal opinion.

First, I want to say that ALL moms are amazing and we’re literal superheroes. Whether you’re a SAHM, Remote working mom, or working mom, you’re amazing and beautiful and you’re doing and AWESOME job, momma!! Keep doing what you’re doing, beautiful!!

I had the opportunity to be a SAHM for 3 months while I was on maternity leave, and damn…. It’s so hard. And it can be really frustrating because you feel like you need a break all the time and you often don’t get many breaks between responsibilities of house and child. Then I went back to work, and DAMNNNN!!!! I’ve never experienced something so challenging and exhausting in my life lol birth was easier than this to be honest. When you put working on top of house and child, you really seriously never get a break. I don’t get my little 30mins to and hour to drink my coffee in the morning while my son sleeps. I don’t get to sit on the couch for a few minutes in between chores. The only breaks I really get is my breaks at work. As soon as I wake up I get myself ready and my son fed and ready for the day, I gather all his daycare stuff and my stuff for work, then I drop him off at daycare, go to work, my husband (or I if I get off early that day) will pick him up. I usually forget breakfast and the cost of groceries has gotten so high that I’ve also stopped eating lunch so my husband can have lunch and bring lunch to work with him. So, the only meal I really eat is dinner, which I skip out on if it’s bath night or I closed that day at work. I’ve gone from a size 12 to a size 6/8 in jeans since going back to work. I’ve lost so much weight (which I guess is a good thing? I bounced back fast and have literally none of that baby weight anymore) Once I get home I’ll feed my son, maybe eat as well, give him a bath if it’s a bath night, maybe do some chores if I have the time, and then I’ll get all of my sons daycare stuff ready to go for the day, and go to bed. With working full time, it’s just got me so busy between work, child, and house that I’m down to showering about once a week now, I rely on dry shampoo and deodorant (I know it’s gross, but I really don’t have the time or energy for it, I shower on my days off because those are my least busiest days). I don’t get days off either. On my days off I spend it cleaning and caring for my son, so there’s no time for relaxing. I usually do a lot of catch up chores on my days off.

Both lifestyles are extremely busy and exhausting. But I do have to say, personally , I prefer being a SAHM. Because even though you feel overstimulated, overwhelmed, exhausted, and you feel like you just need a break…. I would take that over literally having to kill myself just to barely stay on top of everything. I would gladly take watching my son every day all day and not missing a single moment or milestone and being a little overwhelmed and overstimulated over this working mom bull crap. This working mom bull crap is so hard I don’t have a single millisecond to myself. At all. Ever. I’m always on the go and it’s like torture sometimes.

This isn’t the case for all working moms. This is just my personal experience, opinion, and preference.

Momma’s, keep up the good work!! And if you’re a working, mom. You’re doing great and keep persevering…. Remember that YOU are providing for your babies. You’re sacrificing your free time and your time to be able to provide for your babies so they have happy healthy lives and that’s amazing. Happy Mother’s Day, momma’s!!