Argued with SIL.

On last Sunday, I had arguments with my youngest SIL coz she was overstepped my boundaries and my roles as a mother when she tried to discipline my 1 year old toddler son on my behalf.

Before, she always made such comments such as “I don’t know how to discipline my kids, that why they always screaming”. Like how I control my kids eating by don’t let they eat so much ice cream, sweet stuffs and a lot of snacks with not good for my kid’s health. My in laws like also will comment on how I dressed up my kids, my styles are too exaggerated and so on. A lot of comments that interfered on how I raised and discipline my kids. I all kept inside my heart until last Sunday I exploded.

Last Sunday, when she was playing with my son, not sure what was their conversation and didn’t know what she talked to my son, but my son just didn’t want to interact and stood up. Then, she pinned my son down and wanted him to listen to her. My son screamed and cried on top of his lungs, but she still didn’t let him go, continue to used the legs to pin him and asked him to listen. I asked her what she was doing, she didn’t answered me and continued to do that. Then my other SIL and MIL asked her to let my son go first then only talked coz he cried so loud, she shouted at them don’t interfered on how she disciplined him. Couldn’t take it, I told her, let me teach my son, u let him go and calms down first then only talked, but she ignored me and took my son to the room and locked the door, with angry face. I was angry as well as she ignored the mother like me. She wanted to take over my roles.

I told my MIL take the spare keys to open the door and took my son back for me. Then she didn’t say straight to me but argued with my MIL loudly just to let me hear that I don’t know how to teach my kids that why they behaved this way, said we all interfered on how she taught my kids.

I expressed my frustration directly, asserting my role as a mother and my right to discipline my children. I also emphasized that if I needed assistance, I would seek professional help rather than allowing her to take over. However, my mother-in-law sided with her, claiming good intentions on her part. I even said something mean like if she wanted to use her method to teach so badly, have her own children, don’t do that to my kids. Of course, she was mad and hasn’t talked to me ever since.

My husband chose to remain silent in the situation. I'm seeking opinions on how others perceive this scenario.