Hurt and upset.

So today is my birthday. The guy I have been intimate with, situationship, whatever this is, basically went this whole day without calling or texting me, until an hour ago just to respond saying “been down all week no hello no response to my text” a text he never sent. I text him I never got a text and how disappointed I was and he said he felt the same. His birthday was 2 weeks ago and he got upset that I didn’t call him at 12. I didn’t because I thought he would be sleep. But I did call him in the morning and throughout the day of his birthday especially because I wanted to give him gifts. He pretty much was still upset that I wasn’t the first one to call. I’ve never had someone get upset that I didn’t call them at 12.

So we argue back and forth about how unfair that he went this whole day without checking on me and how immature he was acting, especially at his big age. He’s 40, I’m 28. I literally started crying bad on the phone because how bad I wanted to hear from him today. Like I had my family, friends, even strangers wish me happy birthday but the one guy I’m intimate with couldn’t tell me and I told him this and he said you making me feel bad. I got even more upset, cussed him out (I usually don’t) and hung up on him because I was so mad.

I called him back and apologized to him how I reacted and that I didn’t want to go to bed angry at him. He apologized and told me he loved me because I said I didn’t want to go to bed angry at him but I’m still hurt.

He says he want to give me my gifts tomorrow but idk. Like this is hard for me to break from (because he has helped me out in a lot of ways, he’s never really got angry at me, never cussed at me. It’s just he can go days even a week without contacting me, unless I contact him first and sometimes I feel like he gaslight me when I check him on certain things. I know I will need to eventually let him go but this hurts.

Just need some advice.