Avoiding sex in marriage

My husband and I haven’t had sex in several weeks. When we do my body completely rejects it and I sometimes want to cry. He generally doesn’t take care of himself. He doesn’t shower daily (once a week at best) and won’t even eat fruits and vegetables regularly. His breath is awful half the time. He doesn’t not have any mental health issues or disabilities that might hinder him. This is purely out of choice. He also refuses to clean up his own personal things in the house or fold and put away his clothes.

I feel extreme guilt because I know he wants sex, and I feel as though I’m withholding it from him, but it doesn’t feel like a choice for me. I physically can’t, nor do I want it. I do take care of myself daily, and I believe that’s a sign of respect to your partner.

What do you do when your partner is like this? There have been times when it’s absolutely smelled down there for him. We’ve had real honest conversations about this too. I’ve been as gentle as I could be when confronting him, but not much has changed.