I want to have sex at 16

Okay, so I’m 16 year old girl and I’m really want to have sex for some time. I don’t have a boyfriend or anything, but I still want to experience it. I am in the talking stage with someone but I don’t want to pressure that person to have sex with me nor do I want a one time thing. I atleast want the person to care about me even if that means as friends. I just don’t know if I should wait for that person or I should go out and experience it but drop them. I don’t want to hurt this person either because I had a ex boyfriend who had sex with another girl when we had a argument. So I don’t want him to ever experience such pain like I did when I found out. I’m just lost.