I'm in my first relationship in five years and since high school. I was very religious in highschool and super traditional about sex. As I got older my out look on things have changed. However, a lot of the intimacy stuff of a relationship is very new to me. (Yes, I am a virgin.) My boyfriend knows all of this and knows that I'm learning to become more open. But it's very hard for me to tell him what I want because I truly have no idea what I like. And I keep trying to figure out what he wants but he keeps saying that right now we are focusing on me not him. Can anyone suggest to me what to do? As nice as it is to be focused on me I want to show him I'm focused on him.