Orgasm: HELP!

So I've been with my SO for about 6 months now. However, I've only came maybe four times at max? This is the only thing that isn't perfect in our relationship. I'm emotionally and physically attached so I don't understand why it's so hard for me to cum. Basically, I probably just need some pointers on getting myself to orgasm and then maybe I'll be more comfortable with it. What helps you guys orgasm? And how often before you get comfortable with it? Thanks 😁