What’s the difference? Are they both the same?

Do women ‘cum’ like men do where they ejaculate?

I can give myself an orgasm from clit stimulation and so can my partner.

But during sex I don’t seem to be able to get there.......

He keeps asking if I am getting close and I say yes I just can’t get there. He says as long as it feels good and I am satisfied then he is happy too.....

I’m 27 😰 am I broken???