Signs he’s gaslighting me…any examples? PLEASE HELP.

Question

I believe my boyfriend is abusive towards me and is gaslighting me, but I’m not 100% sure. I’m very confused and question it a lot. 
Can you please give me some examples of gaslighting. 
Also, if you have experience with this may you please tell me some things he/she has done/said to you. 
This will really help me put the pieces together I think. 
Thank you in advance.

Answer

The idea of gaslighting came from an old movie where a man is psychologically abusing his wife and constantly lies to her and tries to make her believe things that aren’t true. She doubts her reality and starts to become mentally ill. So in a nutshell, that is what gaslighting is. In the movie, one example would be: she thought she had an appointment on Wednesday, but now he’s insisting that it’s Tuesday when in reality, he switched it on her without letting her know and is now insisting that she must be losing her mind because she can’t remember things like this.
Some other examples of gaslighting: some are overt and some are more subtle…
Your partner says something rude to you and you call him out on it and he says he never said that, you’re crazy, and you’re over reacting.
Your partner says he’s going to do some thing and you ask him if he’s done the thing yet and he says I don’t know what you’re talking about, I never said I was going to do that.
Your partner insists that you said or did something you never said or did and is now holding you accountable for it. And tells you your memory is bad because you don’t remember. 
Your partner screams at you or abuses you in another way, and when you try to talk to him about it and tell him you are hurt, he says you’re too sensitive and that he would never hurt you that like that, even though he did.
Your partner cheats on you and you see him with someone and he denies it and says he has no idea what you’re talking about and you’re just insane.

Answer

When my ex would lie it would be things that maybe could have happened. Like it didn't seem right but I would think okay maybe. I could never prove for sure it was a lie but I couldn't prove what he said was true either. Took finally leaving to see all the lies. It broke my heart for a long time. I believed all the lies.

Signs he’s gaslighting me…any examples? PLEASE HELP.

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