Help am I bad at giving head ?

Question

Out of all the times I have given my boyfriend head or a blowjob, he’s only ever came once, the other times ill be doing it for ages then he just pulls me back up and we start doing other things such as like having sex. I really don’t know if it’s me who’s bad at doing it.

Answer

No you aren’t bad. Some guys actually struggle with finishing from different things. Some guys can’t cum from anything not even sex, only their own hand. Some guys can cum from sex and blowjobs but not hand jobs cuz it just isn’t the right speed/grip. If you have to suck for an extremely long time, chances are it isn’t you and it’s his sensitivity that’s the issue. However I would recommend working on sucking harder/faster and see if that changes things, or add your hands while doing it! Guys have cumming issues just like women do! However hopefully he isn’t telling you that you’re bad, and hopefully he also can get an understanding about his own sensitivity so that doesn’t fall back onto you.

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There can be many reasons, but he is the only one that can tell you for sure. You can also tell him that you want him to cum in your mouth/on your face or wherever so that he knows what you want:
* He may just want to finish another way. Guys are pretty much done for a while after they ejaculate. If he wants to have sex with you, ejaculating during oral will spoil that.
* He may think that you do not like it when he ejaculates in your mouth or on you.
* He may be getting very sensitive and it may be uncomfortable for him.
* He may just not like oral or consider it just foreplay.
* He may have difficulty orgasming during oral for many reasons. For example, he may have had a bad experience before that is messing with his mind, or he may just not like seeing you in that position, or it is just plain difficult for him to orgasm from oral.
* You may just be bad at it, but the chance of that happening is so so so so so so so so so so so so slim.  For many guys  even bad oral is as good or better than sex at giving them pleasure.

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What are you have to remember when it comes to giving oral sex, is that you have a momentum that builds up, but if you break that momentum, it’s like a train that rolls back to the station and you have to start all the way back up the track again. Once you start that momentum, you can’t break it. That may be why he’s not climaxing. It also could be him, having a physical issue, depression, side effect of a medication, just not mentally being there, if you’re thinking about all the things he didn’t have time to do, or projects or anything else, how on earth can you enjoy it. But most likely it’s the momentum that’s being broken. For me when it comes to oral sex, I tease at a little in the beginning with things like flicking the tip quickly like a lizard, circling my tongue around the crown, taking it out of my mouth and licking from the bass all the way up to the tip while making contact with his eyes, I Deep Throat, rule number one when it comes to that as do not eat, because the last thing you want is your lunch coming up, they say that if you put your thumb down and wrap your fingers around it and squeeze your thumb, it’s supposed to help with the gag reflex. I don’t do it personally, but that’s what they say, some people use their hands, some people do not, it all is on you what you prefer. Some people like their testicles to be stimulated, some people like the peroneal stimulator which is the area between the testicles and the anus, and some people like anal play, you do whatever you are comfortable with. Just remember if you do anything with the testicles, very light suction, if you suck hard it’s like a kick in the nuts. And remember the more that you enjoy it, the more that he enjoys it, the more you get into it and moan and enjoy yourself, the more he will enjoy it. Heavy breathing and moaning, It doesn’t have to be like a porno all fake and act it out, but really enjoy yourself. You are pleasing your partner. And once he climaxes, lift up a little, swallow, keep going, and let him enjoy the ride down until his heart rate and breathing returns to normal, he may still spit out some semen and that is normal, He may or may not stay hard, that’s normal as well. So you really wanna focus on the up-and-down motion, pressing your tongue up against the vein that runs up the back, adding some suction, and just keep the momentum going that’s the basics.￼

Help am I bad at giving head ?

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