I want the girls that haven't yet had their first time that it doesn't always hurt, you don't always bleed and the person you lose your virginity to doesn't always leave you or end up treating you like shit. They don't have to be the love of your life or the person you're going to marry, but it is good for comfort and trust reasons that you pick someone that will respect you and go at your pace. My first time (with a male) was incredible. So incredible that I asked him to marry me right in the middle of it. I was joking of course, but if that isn't reassurance enough that it can be awesome, then I don't know what is.