Some advise please

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So my 2 year old boy is has suspected autism he hasn't yet been diagnosed and the diagnostic stage seems like a long journey however its pretty clear he shows so many traits. My little brother has autism and my sons fathers brother has it to so I know what to look out for. I also know they are all different I know how big the spectrum is and each person with autism show different behaviours. I'm struggling with my boy recently. He cries alot, has meltdowns alot, is uncontrollable with hand flapping and playing with others is a definite no. Recently hes been crying at anyone and everything we cabt even say hello without him crying and covering his ear which i know is sensory overload but why is he doing this with his usual family member that he sees everyday.

Please dont judge me I'm just so lost and I'm crying out for some advise on how to deal with a child with autism. I love him no matter what but I'm lost on how to cope and how to assist him yo make him feel happy and comfortable in his surroundings i try my best everyday to make sure hes happy and smiley but he just doesn't want my attention. I can't even take a picture of him because he HATES the camera which really upsets me. It's got to the point I'm feeling distant from him and I really hate feeling this way

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Gu

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You should definitely try getting him some noise canceling headphones and starting to teach him sign language so that he can have noise canceling headphones on more often. Sensory overload isn't always about the amount of noise it's just how much you can handle as yourself in that moment. Making sure to let him find his own solutions and not punishing him for things he can't control will help with trust but you can't expect him to be something he's not.Stimming is essential and trying to get an autistic child to stop is traumatic. If you want to try and offer other ways of stimming that is an okay idea but don't tell him to stop just show him different waysThere's chew jewelry that I personally loveYou could get him a fidget cube or a spinnerYou should look up different ways people stim because I'm not the end all be all But yes the main rule is don't punish because you don't understand.If he's stimming let him stimIf he hurts someone while stimming don't tell just say be mindful of othersIf he covers his ears while you talk don't punish him even though it's frustrating just be patient and sit with him or come back later

Zo

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This sounds exactly like my son, he’s also two, hand flaps all the time, and does basically as you describe. When my son is feeling overwhelmed/ over loaded. I put him in his pushchair and take him to a local field just me and him and we just sit there or if he wants I let him out of his pushchair and he just likes to lie on the grass or he’ll play with the flowers, bushes, trees ect and we can sit there for hours just me and him. I suppose it’s like a place of comfort for him. Can I ask, is your son speaking yet? My son has no words at all yet, starting speech theory soon