Me and my boyfriend of a year and 3 months havent had proper sex yet. This is because is because I experience pain when he tries to put it in, so I bought some dilators. I'm making good progress with the dilators but when I'm using them I find it much easier to put them in while rubbing my clit.

I want to buy a vibrator, I see it as having these positives to it: it can also be used on him so it's not just a me thing, and when we do try to have proper sex it'll make it easier to put it in (I have long nails so this would prevent injury to him as well lol). He said that he doesnt want to get one yet because he wants to wait until after we've properly had sex to 'spice' things up. (I dont even see this as really spicing it up)