Okay so basically, my partner and I have been together 14 years. We're not married but have 3 amazing children and currently own a house together. The house is 50/50. We are in the process of buying a new home for us all as a family. The new house is currently £280,000. His parents won a substantial amount of money a couple years back and wants to gift us £200,000 of it towards the deposit. I am beyond greatful! Yesterday his dad said he is concerned that if 5 years time we split, that I would kick him out and keep the house. Anyone who knows me knows I am nothing like that. I am not a greedy person, nor evil, selfish or nasty. I understand his dad's worry completely. Anyway, fast forward to today. My partner has always been for us having 50/50 on the next property but this time around he wants to own the entire equity of the house and wants to put me down for 10% once I finish my degree and start my career. I came out of uni to have our baby who is currently 1. We also have a 7 year old and a 6 year old.

I mean, I understand completely but that would mean I have no security. He then says that if we split he wants to ensure he won't be left with nothing because 'some women are evil' - granted, but so are some men, and wanted to ensure he gets back the full 200k gifted from his parents. I suppose I just feel rather insulted by all of this and I'm now questioning his commitment even though he's telling me he has no intention of splitting up, ever.

I have been in tears about it today because I felt like the new house was our forever home, our future and a future for our children. Now I just feel like I'm going to be living in his home and his home only. Should I be upset?