I’m 29 years old with 4 kids and I feel like my needs aren’t being met in my marriage. My husband and I got married when I was 21 and he was 23. Our children are 8,6,3 and 1. Throughout our relationship we’ve been able to graduate from college and further our careers. As I sit back and reflect on all that we’ve been through I feel deeply hurt. I’ve been the main one making sacrifices for our family. Even while going through college while pregnant and being the main caretaker for our children, my husband refused to go above and beyond. The world sees my husband as this amazing man but he’s truly selfish. He won’t wake up early to help me get the kids ready for school but he’ll wake up early to work out. When I was pregnant and going through an accelerated program he didn’t pick up the household slack. There’s been plenty of snowstorms that he didn’t shovel out my van because “he didn’t have time before work”. My husband enjoys the fun parts of parenting(practices, sporting events, birthday parties, watching movies, reading stories) but he complains when I ask him to take over some of the real responsibilities. He doesn’t show any effort for our anniversaries/ my birthday’s. I also make $15/hr more than him. He doesn’t show up for me when it matters and for some reason everyone thinks I’m so lucky to be with him. Because there’s no abuse or cheating my mom and sisters think it would be selfish of me to leave. Sorry if this is hard to read but I am fed up. Am I wrong for wanting to leave? My husband did battle with depression early in our relationship but he can’t keep using that as a crutch.