How can i feel sexy 😢

I'm 22, I have always been pudgey but before I had my daughter I had a butt and curves, during my pregnancy I completely lost my butt it's like a pancake 😂 and my curves have turned into a muffin top ... more like a muffin factory. I hate the way I look atm and don't feel up to sex at all, my partner always compliments me and tries to make me feel good but I can't accept the compliments. I don't enjoy sex when we do end up having it, because my partner wants the lights on, he'll look at all my jiggly bits and I feel so uncomfortable. I want to feel like a woman again instead of a fat potato. I need to find a way to feel confident and sexy again it's getting ridiculous 😧 sorry if this is a ramble