Fed up of being the bad guy

Chantelle • Mummy to two beautiful little girls 💞

I really need to rant! 😡

I'm completely fed up of being the bad guy for my exs parents not having a relationship with my 8 month old daughter.

Even my ex says it's my fault. His dad and step mum have been to my house twice to see her and every other time I've brought her to their grotty pub which quite frankly gives me the worst case of anxiety, but I do it because they whine and moan and I get called a bitch otherwise. They think because I don't just drop her off and leave her with them that's it my fault. And let me just specify she does not have a bond with them, she cries when they hold her and puts her arms out to come back to me.

And my exs real mum, well I used to have a better relationship with her then my ex did with her but all because I said no to her once having my daughter on her own suddenly I'm too unstable to look after my own child. (she's seen her all of 3 times and every time she's been completely hungover from the night before).

It's just really getting to me that I'm being slated so much for things that aren't my fault. It's not my job to make sure they see her. Hell my own mother has been ill, in and out of hospital and due for an operation and she can still travel down to mine 2-3 times a week to see my daughter. And my daughter adores my mother.

And here's the real kicker. All of his parents have said that I "don't make them feel welcome". I've been nothing but civil and kind since day dot. His parents at one point never even used to let me in the flat but I'm the one that makes them feel unwelcome. The ones who called me "that girl" for 6 months because they didn't know my name?? I'm just raging right now and have no other outlet to vent 😡😢 it just makes me so upset too.

EDIT - I should also mention I had an argument with his real mum because she was telling me to go get counselling for my "seperation anxiety" telling me my behaviour is damaging to my daughter. All because I won't let her have her on her own. And she's been trying to get my ex to make me go to counselling. She's supposed to be visiting in 2 weeks but said she's not coming to see me and my daughter because of me. Ah well, not my loss, its hers 🤷🏼‍♀️