This may be more of a vent post. But my husband and I are just so irritated lol. He has a sister who is 33, she and her fiance live with their mom and step-father.

She has no children, but he has a daughter - maybe age 10. He never sees her but maybe twice a year and they just live half an hour away from the child. He doesn’t pay child support or help in any way and has had a couple of court dates against him due to this. One is coming up soon too. Well, they’re always begging for money and for several months we had helped as we could, because sometimes people just need help ya know. Then when we realized this was more of a habit and they were depending on us so to say, my husband learned to say No. so we didn’t hear from them for quite a bit because we were no longer paying their bills. She works, but part time (barely over minimum wage here, so 8.50/hr. She’s had opportunities to change jobs over the years but refused) and she’s constantly calling off work. She’s very unhealthy in which she will lay in her room and only get up to use the restroom. She’s very overweight and has back problems, and always says how tired she is or how much pain she’s in. She’s also always trying to find a way to sue someone. Her fiance is a job hopper he will go work at a job from a temp agency, get a paycheck, then come up with an excuse as to why they let him go etc. never seen anyone like this in my life not want to work. As I said before they live with the mother and stepdad who are both on a very low fixed income and all 4 of them share 1 vehicle.

It upsets my husband so bad because it’s like they just take advantage of them and don’t care. What really made him livid yesterday is while at a family members birthday party, the fiance announced that they will be going to the women’s clinic this coming week to discuss starting meds for helping her pregnant. My husband has no filter and by this point had enough and he said “listen, I’m not against anyone having children they’re a blessing but you don’t see your own child as it is, yall are broke, always begging for money, can’t keep a job, stay in bed, how the heck are you going to afford a baby??!! Then babies grow up and teenagers are much more expensive! You can’t take care of yourselves, what are you trying to prove?”

Sister gets offended, fiance gets offended, mother says he shouldn’t have said that.

Maybe not, but everyone else said they thought the same. Was this totally in the wrong or can you see where the point is? My husband is terrified if she gets pregnant and has a child that we will have to raise it.